Your role as a parent going over the feelings of the day is not to change the way they felt about a situation or try to pacify their emotions.
Instead, practice reflecting their feelings back to them and validating their emotions. Another way to process their feelings can also be “I wonder what would have made that less scary” (or hurtful, etc.) or “I wonder what feelings go with the one you felt” (happy with excited, angry with sad, etc.).
Many find that right before bed is a nice close to the day and allows bonding between you and the child each night.
Explain that at any time throughout the day, your child can choose to put a face on the chart describing how he/she feels.
It can be made on posterboard or cardboard with markers, colored pencils or crayons.